Tuesday, April 22, 2014

NIAW (national infertility awareness week)

Y'all there is a whole week dedicated to celebrating me - not that I really want you to be celebrating this part of me. 

I didn't choose to be the 1 out of 8 couples who suffers from infertility but I am. 

It sucks. 

What I can do about it is to bring knowledge and awareness of it. 

  • 1 in 8 couples suffer from infertility 
  • 12% of women (of the baby making age) are infertile 
  • 25% of couples have more than 1 contributing factor
  • 10% of couples experience unexplained infertility
  • 1/3 of infertility is a female factor
  • 1/3 of infertility is a male factor
  • Less than 3% of couples need to go the IVF route
  • On average IVF costs $19,234 - none of which is covered by insurance, so this total amount is out of pocket expenses.

Here is the thing about Infertility.  Those who suffer from it are unable to do the one thing we are supposed to do - procreate for whatever reason.  
For some reason this in an embarrassing or shameful thing to talk about.  I mean really who wants to ruin the mood of a conversation by announcing the inability to get pregnant or even the loss of a pregnancy.  
I know for myself - I don't like telling people when I have a miscarriage.  I can't really tell you why, I guess its because I don't want to be a "Debbie Downer" of sorts.  
Its also very emotional to talk about that type of loss and most people either don't understand or don't know how to react or what to say.  So it just makes things awkward.  

Often times we suffer from infertility silently.  You can't look at someone and know they are infertile. You only know if they share it with you and then depending on how busy you life is - you might forget that they are suffering from it and make comments that really aren't appreciated.

Infertility sucks. Period. If you suffer from it you are constantly being reminded of it - any time you see a pregnant girl, a newborn, when your period starts, or when you get that nasty negative on your latest pregnancy test.

The other thing that sucks about infertility? Its NOT considered to be a life threatening disease so most health insurances DO NOT cover it.  That means that any type of medical treatment you seek for this disease - you have to pay ALL EXPENSES out of your own pocket (unless you are raising money for it) and this treatment IS NOT cheap.  So that sucks too. 

♥ Ashley


  1. I am a prisoner of hope. Every month. There is never closure. It is a hope and then a disappointment and despair that can't be matched. It is a loss every single month. A loss of dreams, hopes, and goals. A loss of a future daughter or son. The loss of the family you always planned for. It's devastating.

  2. I'm really glad I came across your blog. This is really eye opening, I am aware of infertility but certainly don't know much about it. This is such an intimate detail to share and like you mentioned it's not common to share things related to infertility but huge kudos to you for sharing this and some of your feelings. Thank you for sharing. Hugs, M.


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